In
the John Green book, The Fault in Our Stars, there is a line
that says: “It's
almost as if the way you imagine my dead self says more about you than it says
about either the person I was or the whatever I am now.”
I have found this
sentiment to be true. We tend to base
our understanding of others on how we think, feel, or act. I have had the experience of other people
placing their feelings and thoughts upon me and, regrettably, I have
been guilty of doing it to others. It is
bizarre to have someone else tell me what I mean to say with my words and what
my intentions are with my actions when the realities within me are actually quite
different from their opinion.